Your Attitude Makes A Difference…

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Attitudes of the Heart…

The attitudes of your heart shape your character. In all things, your heart’s condition creates the appeal of your personality. Attitudes are a purposeful mindset.

Veterans of knowledge have this understanding and recognize what is behind every motive. Every choice you make defines your true self.

The heart expresses itself through the determined spirit, establishing the values and conditions, which drive your choices in life. Live with a purpose and maintain a healthy heart. Strive to have a heart that obeys God.

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Cultivating right attitudes

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Living a Life of Purpose

These described 12 attitudes of the heart will strengthen your walk by cultivating the right attitude to acknowledge your role, and the part you play in life.

  1. Love God will all your heart, soul, and mind. Make this your first priority in life. Everything else falls into place with this strong condition of the heart.
  2. Be understanding and in all things use wise discernment. Practice patience with perseverance.
  3. Guard your mouth against any gossip. Be the friend that keeps others’ secrets locked safe and never compromise your values.
  4. Be forgiving and trust God for true vindication.
  5. Remove all pride for it eliminates the justification for forgiveness.
  6. Love your enemies for love holds no wrongs. For an ounce of heart is worth a vessel of soul.
  7. Stretch your faith and pledge a life to be born again. This is a personal faith and trust in Jesus Christ.
  8. Let go of fears and don’t let them stand in your way to the life you deserve.
  9. Serve Others out of a heart of gratitude and love.
  10. Be a peacemaker for theirs lay the kingdom of Heaven. (Matthew 5:9)
  11. Keep your commitments and be committed to a standard of values in your own heart, between you and God.
  12. Love unconditionally and be devoted to each other as in brotherly love. For love is a choice and expressing brotherly love is the same type of love you would find in a healthy family. Jesus is a great example of brotherly love.
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A Heart of Worship

Your Heart’s Motivation

Whatever other command there may be, are summed up in this one command: “Love your neighbor as yourself.” Love does no harm to a neighbor. Therefore love is the fulfillment of the law. – Romans 13:9-10

Love must be sincere. Hate what is evil; cling to what is good. Be devoted to one another in love. Honor one another above yourselves. Never be lacking in zeal, but keep your spiritual fervor, serving the Lord. Be joyful in hope, patient in affliction, faithful in prayer. Share with the Lord’s people who are in need. Practice hospitality. – Romans 12:9-13

Give yourself an attitude check. A determined spirit is a mindset filled with a purpose. Finding true heart knowledge desires a determination of will.

Every human is born with a nature that seeks gratification and fulfillment apart from God.

Learn to do what is right because it is right, not for what you can get out of it.

A humble person is quick to forgive, difficult to offend and joyfully waits on God. The humble person says I have no problem forgiving you for I have enough problems of my own.

Be grateful in all circumstances. Positive thoughts can introduce power into your life. Wait on God to bring it to pass. During your wait, your faith is stretched. While you’re waiting find the joys in your life.

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Time Prepares You

Time prepares you to accept the dream.  In the midst of waiting, have an expected attitude that something good is going to happen.

Rejoice and be glad, because great is your reward in heaven, for in the same way they persecuted the prophets who were before you. – Matthew 5:12

The Bible defined the Great Sermon on the Mount when Jesus spoke of the Beatitudes. (Matthew 5:1-11) Take the time to grow in Godly character.

Do you have a goal, a vision, and a dream for your life? God has created each of us to reach. When the visions are placed in front of you, you keep reaching. It begins with a dream, and the possibilities are endless.

For the Lord God is a sun and shield; the Lord bestows favor and honor; no good thing does he withhold from those whose walk is blameless. – Psalm 84:11

Everyone has the equal opportunity to achieve the impossible.

With the inspirations of every day moments, your attitude is a precious commodity. The attitude of the heart conditions your life to grow or to remain stagnant.

Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is – his good, pleasing and perfect will. – Romans 12:2

Ready to nurture your soul and cultivate growth? Then lighten the load your heart condition carries.

“People are like stained-glass windows. They sparkle and shine when the sun is out, but when the darkness sets in, their true beauty is revealed only if there is a light from within.” — Elizabeth Kübler-Ross

Having a genuine purpose in your heart will motivate you to succeed, in life.

Need Vitamin Sea…

There are few, “Places” on this earth, that I Love! The main one is the Ocean.

The ocean, the beach, the waves, the sea life, the mystery, the beauty. Yes, the beach is my sanctuary. Here are a couple of quotes that I really enjoy, hope you do as well:

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The Only Constant in my life is “Change”.

Life is a continuous learning experience. Throughout our lives we keep rising and falling, picking up important lessons along the way. Some of these lessons come from experience, yet there are others that we learn watching others or reading in books for example. No matter how much we learn from the books there is a significant difference between practical and theoretical experience. Furthermore, there are many life lessons that we simply cannot learn until we face certain situations in our life. Most people would say that there are some lessons that come too late, catching us off-guard and unprepared.

The following list unveils some of the most important lessons in life that people learn the hard way.

1. Walk your own path

People like to judge other people. This peer pressure can make you stray from the path you started to carve for your future. Don’t mind other people’s aspirations, don’t ever let someone else’s goals and dreams influence your vision of life. It’s your path and you decide where it takes you and how long it takes you to see it through.

2. Don’t hesitate when you should act

There is an old Roman proverb that people often quote – “Carpe diem” – meaning “Seize the day”. More often than not, we fail to act due to lack of confidence or courage. This hesitation keeps us from moving forward and puts us in a cage of wondering what might have been. Whenever you feel it’s time to act, take action. No matter the outcome, you will end up smarter than before.

3. Experience what you have learned

No matter how much we think we know about some topic, it’s only after we have put that knowledge into use that we get confirmation of the actual level of understanding that we possess. Sure, we could read about painting, learn all the techniques and brush types, colour palettes, etc. but only when we get in front of a canvas and start painting we put our knowledge to the test.

As EduGeeksClub’s career expert, Julia Smith once wrote: “Young people often face difficulties when it comes to putting what they have learned into practice; therefore all this knowledge becomes useless when it should be the fuel that propels their careers”.

4. Good things don’t come easy

If you want to have a good life with a successful career, emotional satisfaction, and trustworthy friends you have to work hard. Luck can take you only so far and the rest is entirely up to you, the amount of effort you put in every day, and the ability to learn from your mistakes. Don’t think for a moment that someone else is going to fight your battles with the same vigor and devotion as you would.

5. Never fail to try more

Even when we’re feeling most prepared there is a chance we fail in accomplishing our goal. An athlete could lead the entire race only to fall just in front of the finish line and lose. This doesn’t mean the athlete should stop competing; on the contrary, he would work even harder for the next competition. The results will come, eventually.

6. Take care of your health early

When we’re young we can push our body to its limits day after day. It seems as nothing can touch us and we are invincible. However, as we grow older all the parties, drinking, smoking, and eating fast food take a toll on our health. Start developing healthy habits while you’re still young and healthy. Take regular checkups with your doctor and dentist in order to prevent future problems.

7. Make every moment count

Life goes by faster than we think. When you’re in your twenties you think you’ll stay there forever but before you know it you are in your thirties and it’s too late for the things you wanted to do as a young person. Live your life to its full extent because life is short and we never know what tomorrow brings.

8. Live and let live

We often try to help people when we see they’re making a mistake. This type of behavior can lead us into all kinds of troubles and misunderstandings. Don’t force your ideas onto others, let those who want your help and guidance seek you out. Sometimes it’s best to stay away and let them come to you or you might seem intrusive to others.

9. Be flexible with your goals

Sometimes we feel it’s the right time to take action and put our plans in motion only to realize that we were wrong. It’s important to analyze our current position and how our activities could influence our future. Sometimes it’s better to postpone a certain goal or even change it for the time being. Accepting a promotion in a bad time could get us in more trouble than good if the time is not right.

10. For every action, there’s an equal opposite reaction

Before you say something or act in a certain way, think about the consequences. A person could be unprepared to hear some truth or won’t respond well to our gesture, no matter how good our intentions are. Treat each word with caution.

Take these pieces of advice as guidance, not as a rule. Your life is your own and you know what’s best for you. However, keep in mind that morning is wiser than the evening. Enjoy life!

Silence and Peace

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For some people, silence hanging in the air is a nightmare. They’ll say anything to fill the quiet, to make things less awkward, or to cut the tension. But the truth is, silence isn’t always a problem. It gets a bad rap for being boring; in fact, in a relationship—especially a long-term relationship like a marriage—it should be the most comfortable thing in the world.

Sure, in the early days of dating it’s normal to want to keep the conversation going. You’re going to be nervous about a lull or an uncomfortable gap where one of you is desperate to come up with something you have in common to talk about it. But in a long-term relationship, in a partnership, and in a marriage, silence should feel natural. Instead of being scared of running out of things to say or being worried about boring each other, we should embrace silence. You don’t need to be quiet all the time—that would be weird and probably a sign that something was probably wrong.

But once in a while, being quiet together is an important part of a healthy relationship. Here’s why you should embrace being mum with your partner.

It Shows a Level of Ease with Each Other

I’m a nervous chatterer. At a party, when meeting someone new, or at a job interview (aka if I’m nervous) I’m probably going to talk too much. So when I’m quiet with a partner, I don’t take it as a bad sign. It doesn’t mean we don’t have anything to talk about or that we’re feeling awkward with each other, it just means that I feel comfortable enough to be quiet with them. For some people, that might come easily. But for those of us who can chat away too much when we’re nervous, being able to be still with one another is a great sign.

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You’ve stopped performing for each other and you can just be yourselves.

You Can Really Relax

Along with showing how comfortable you are as a pair, being quiet together allows you to actually relax. Whether it’s watching TV or just having a lazy Sunday morning, you are going to want to be able to unwind with your partner. And silence can be rejuvenating. Once you get used to spending time being quiet together, it can become a restful, nourishing part of your relationship.

The Silent Treatment Should Never Be a Bad Thing

“The silent treatment” is often associated with having a fight in a relationship, but the truth is, silence should never be used as a form of punishment. Fights and disagreements require communication—you should be talking through them, rather than shutting down to prove a point. You should learn how to associate silence with being an easy way to spend time together—and realize you need to respond to tension with communication. It will do wonders for your relationship. Never let an argument turn into a stalemate.

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For an Introvert, It’s Even More Important

For some people, being quiet together isn’t just a nice side effect of being at ease—it’s a must. Introverts not only need time alone to recharge, they also need stillness. So if you’re an introvert yourself or you spend a lot of time with an introvert partner, it’s important that as a couple you respect each other’s need for silence. For some people, it really is a necessity.

At Some Point, You’re Going to Have to Be Silent

It’s also important to be realistic—if this is your significant other for the long haul, a future partner, or a spouse, you’re going to need to figure out how to spend time alone together. You can’t fill every car journey, every train or plane ride, every early-morning coffee chattering away. At some point, you’ll run out of things to say—or just get sick of each other’s voices. Think of the number of hours you might spend together over a lifetime…some silence is inevitable. Learn not to be afraid of it.

Once you’ve come to enjoy it, it will make your relationship so much stronger.

It Doesn’t Have to Mean Doing Nothing

There’s a stigma about silence being associated with being bored or doing nothing—but it doesn’t have to mean sitting around twiddling your thumbs. Being quiet together can mean going on a journey, but it can also mean both of you read a book or the paper in the morning. It can mean one of you scrolls through the internet while the other dozes in bed, or one of you works on a craft project while the other plays a game or does some yoga. Don’t think of being quiet together as embracing some kind of shared meditation—though if that works for you, great.

But remember that there are a lot of things you can do together in comfortable silence.

Being quiet together doesn’t mean your relationship has run out of steam—it just means that you’re comfortable enough to really relax together. Sure, you should have nights in which you can’t stop joking, talking, and laughing together—that’s part of what keeps a relationship exciting. But lying on the couch and relaxing together is part of what gives your relationship a solid foundation—and that’s just as important as anything else.

Walking Back Into Peace

How To Walk In God’s Peace

Practical Steps You Can Take

As singles, couples, moms or dads, we all face the temptation to be anxious about circumstances, loved ones and the future. But the Bible teaches that we can walk in God’s supernatural peace because we are in Christ Jesus. Jesus Himself is our Peace. We can resist the temptation to give in to worry. We can choose, instead, to abide in God’s wonderful peace.

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Peter the apostle wrote, “[Cast] the whole of your care — all you anxieties, all your worries, all you concerns, once and for all — on Him; for He cares for you affectionately, and cares about you watchfully.” There are three truths we can glean out of this one verse:

God never intended for you to carry your own burdens.

He wants to carry them for you.

You have to do something when it comes to worry.

You have to cast worry off of yourself and trust God with your problems. It takes humility to say, God, I give this problem to You because You can take care of it much better that I can.

God You need to understand the Father’s loving care for you as His child. Only then will you fully release the weight of each problem to Him. Worry, like other negative thoughts, is actually a thief — stealing our peace, energy, time and joy

This Journey, we call, “Life”, can be quite difficult sometimes. And that is “OKAY!”

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Nobody ever says when we’re growing up that life will be easy, but few people ever tell us just how hard it can get. Of course, why would they? Who can look a child in the eyes and tell them that they will know pain and loss and heartache beyond anything they could ever imagine now? 

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But to feel pain and to experience difficulty is part of the human condition. 

It’s as much a part of life as feeling love, joy, and wonder. 

The truth of the matter is that being alive in a human body is a non-stop rollercoaster of duality. We, as human beings, are capable of feeling the most unbelievable highs of beauty and brilliance and the most soul-crushingly awful lows. We go through life not knowing what to expect next, and worse, carrying the weight of the burden of knowing that deep within ourselves is the capability to be as awful and nasty as the worst among us are. 

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It’s important to realize that loving yourself is about loving yourself completely, even those parts of yourself that you might not like.

You have to learn how to forgive yourself for being human. You have to realize that those parts about yourself that you feel are negative or imperfect are as much a part of you as your love, your kindness, your laughter, and your compassion.  

True personal growth isn’t about eliminating your dark side; it’s about coming to accept it. It’s about learning to love it like you would a sister or brother. Every rose needs manure, and every person needs their animal instincts in order to survive. Having these instincts sometimes means that we do things we end up regretting, and that’s okay.

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It’s okay to not be okay. It’s okay to be depressed, to be sad, to be angry, to feel guilty, or remorseful – it’s all just part of being human.

Life becomes a much more peaceful and enlightening experience when you can feel all of these negative things without feeling ashamed at yourself for feeling that way in the first place; when you understand that you are only human, and that you’re set up to experience pain and sadness and fear from the very start.

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You don’t have to force yourself to be happy. You don’t have to feel any other way than how you feel right here, right now.

You are an infinite soul. You are the sum total of all possibility. You exist in multiplicities. You will feel pain again, but you will also feel happy. You will feel hope. Despair. Joy. Anger. Ecstasy.

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You’re a balancing act. And that’s okay! You were never meant to be anything else.

And that’s the truth of the matter; the thing beneath the surface that’s so obvious but that so few of us truly recognize – that there would be no love without loss. There would be no happiness without sadness, no truth without lies, no fullness without emptiness. We exist to feel all of these things, good and bad, and we feel all of these things because without black you cannot have white. You can’t have light without dark, or heads without tails. Polarity is the essence of all things, like yin and yang.

And this is what no one tells you, what no one talks about.

 Life is both beautiful and terrible, uplifting and depressing. Being a human is a difficult and messy, but manageable, situation. You have to recognize that we would not be able to appreciate the smooth without the rough; good and bad go hand in hand to give us the depth of experience that we wake up and take for granted each day.

Being human and being at peace takes effort, determination, compassion, persistence, and a whole multitude of other traits, but most of all it takes courage. It takes bravery to get up every morning and keep going when all you want is for everything to stop. Courage isn’t the absence of fear, but being able to feel it and carry on regardless. 

You are strong; much stronger than you realize. Nothing lasts forever, not your pain, not your sadness, not your tiredness. This too will pass. And on the other side of it is the rest of your life – bad times, sure. But good ones, too. Love, laughter, learning, green fields, blue skies, and beyond.

I Don’t Have to be “Right”.

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It’s human nature to want to be right. After all, if you aren’t right, it follows that you are wrong. Right?

Who wants to be wrong? No one.

Yet, the need to be right can get you into a lot of tight spots. And it’s an approach that won’t help you change anything. Instead, it keeps you stuck.

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Being Right is Human

Don’t beat yourself up if you know you tend to want to prove yourself right…often. It’s human nature to want to be right. We don’t like being wrong and consider it a reflection on who we are. If we are wrong, we think we look bad. And we will do just about anything not to look bad.

However, our need to be right can become an addiction. Like a bad habit, it’s something we do automatically or unconsciously, and we can’t live without it. It helps us maintain our sense of equilibrium. If we are right, we know we are okay.

I get it. I don’t want to be wrong either, and I like to look good. But the need to be right does me no good at all. It doesn’t help my relationships. It doesn’t change anything in my life for the better, and it doesn’t provide solutions to problems. And it definitely doesn’t make me happy.

You’ll never be happy as long as you insist others are wrong.

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Give up the Need to be Right

So, I suggest we give up the need to be right. One of my clients did it for Lent, but I recommend you and I do it now. Right now.

To give up your need to be right, first, you must become conscious of when you feel that desire to make someone or something wrong. Notice when your attitude turns toward, “They’re wrong,” “That’s wrong,” or “I know better.”

When you notice that happening, make a shift. Do something different. Specifically, drop that need to be right!

You can only do that when you are aware it’s happening, though. Like any addiction, you’ll break it by creating a new and more-positive habit. You do that by consistently doing something else.

Drop that need to be right!

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5 Ways to Stop Needing to be Right

I know of five ways to give up the need to be right. Give them a try.

  1. Ask the age-old question: Would you rather be right or happy? Most of us would rather be happy, but we often equate being right with being happy. In fact, when you make someone else wrong, deep down inside, you don’t feel good (or right) about your actions…or yourself. That’s why you’ll never be happy as long as you insist others are wrong.
  2. Consider that you want to be right to justify yourself or your actions in some way.Maybe you want to prove you are smarter, not wrong, better, or that it wasn’t your fault. Drop the justifications; the need to be right diminishes—or disappears. Your reasons tend to end up as blame and excuses, neither of which improve a situation, relationship, or how you feel about yourself.
  3. Stop telling yourself you aren’t proving the other person wrong but just proving that you are right. In fact, you possess the need to make the other person wrong. If you accomplish that goal, on some level, you believe you will feel better about yourself. (As mentioned, on another level you will feel worse.Instead, try allowing the other person to be right. Doing so is as easy as saying, “You know, you are right.” And those words do not mean you are wrong. Two people can be right.
  4. Start small. Taking small steps is good advice when you want to change any unsupportive habit. You could go cold turkey—break your addiction fast! Or look for little opportunities to practice dropping your need to be right.For example, don’t tell the waiter he took your order incorrectly. You said, “dressing on the side,” but the dressing came on the salad. You can eat it the way this one time or say, “I would prefer the dressing on the side. Is there a way we can correct this situation?” Or order another salad and ask, “Did you get that? I’d like the dressing on the side.”
    Let’s say your driving on the highway, and a car pulls sharply in front of your vehicle. Fight your urge to shout, “You’re a jerk! You cut me off! You don’t know how to drive!” Also, don’t give in to your desire to speed up and tailgate him or to pull around him and wave your fist at him through the window as you pass. Instead, consider that maybe you weren’t paying attention to his need to change lanes or merge and, therefore, didn’t slow down to let him in. Or admit, “Wow…that was a bit scary and dangerous. I’m glad we are both okay. I’ll give him some more space.”Get used to allowing for the possibility that you aren’t right and the other person is not wrong.
  5. Focus on what’s right with everything! The need to be right makes you focus on what is wrong. To counteract this tendency, stop looking for what’s wrong. Instead, look for what’s right. When you change your focus in this way, you’ll discover fewer opportunities to point your finger and say, “That’s wrong,” “You’re wrong,” or “I am right.”

Get used to allowing for the possibility that you aren’t right and the other person is not wrong.

Don’t expect your attitude about being right to change overnight. It takes consistent work to break the habit of proving everyone else wrong. When you eliminate your addiction to being right, you’ll experience improvement in almost every area of your life.